Insights: The Principles of Attraction- Become The Guy She Dumped You For

The Principles of Attraction

What are they really?

All serious relationships begin as casual affairs.  Regardless of your age or background, romance is a process.  At its core, physical desire brings two people together.  Man or woman, we are still animals.  From that first glance and eventually to the bedroom, this is what brings about the formation of every relationship.  Attraction is not some mysterious, invisible, random force.  It's a hard science that you can feel. And you know that happens when you meet eyes with someone you like. This is governed by a specific set of rules. Much like magnets, these rules are established by masculine and feminine characteristics that are attracted to each other.  This is a fact of life:

Masculine: Takes the lead, directs, penetrates, pursues and accepts challenges, is

          lighthearted and humorous, undramatic, goal oriented, certain and passionate

          about a life’s work.  Fundamentally demonstrates competence with confidence.

Feminine:  Receives leadership, desires to bond, builds and strengthens relationships,

stimulated by communication and shared experiences, playful, seeks emotional

safety and protection, validation in times of uncertainty.  

The Rules:

Simple. She must first emotionally connect with you…

• Confidence: Complete assuredness in your actions- approach, getting contact information, setting and planning a date. Act with humor and kindness- getting to the point with what you want from her.  Absolute belief in having no limitations with your abilities to lead.

• Authenticity: ‘Game’ is not real, that's for bad pickup artists. It’s about being genuinely interested in her.  Your words and actions must match.

• Presence: Of primary importance is body language, being fully engaged, relaxed and attentive to what she is giving to you.

• Communication: Fun, unserious, asking sincere questions about her, listening proactively.

• Value: Allow her to feel safe to be feminine, be in the moment with her, lead the date and ultimately intimacy.  She wants no responsibility for it.  

Overcoming Fears:

That’s why you’re here. And it’s ok.  You know what those fears are and how they make you feel:

• Approach Anxiety: Eye contact.  Nothing to it, but to do it!  Visualize yourself taking a walk over to her, striking up conversation.  She’s like anyone else and desires to be treated as such.  TAKE ACTION.  It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be. 

• Maintaining Interest: Don’t think you can keep her engaged?  Get on with the date already!  Show your attraction to her and keep everything positive, especially about yourself. 
  

Ready to master the principles of attraction?

FAQs

Q: Who am I and why should you listen to me?

A: I’m just a dude who has had a lot of experience in some very compelling situations.   Financially, socially, and romantically.  I want to help because I know what works.  This is why I wrote Become The Guy She Dumped You For.  It offers the facts on the principles of attraction.

Q: What is the main focus of Become The Guy She Dumped You For?

A: The book explains practical strategies to understand and apply the principles of attraction to enhance your success with dating. It will work.

Q: Why is authenticity important in attraction?

A: Authenticity immediately reveals compatibility, and filters out the girls who are attracted to you. People will inherently trust you as this creates rapport independently of romance.

Q: Why don’t I feel like I have great communication skills?

A: You just weren’t ever taught or learned effectively.  It’s all in the book.  Focus on clarity in what you want, and getting over the fear of rejection by being comfortable within your own skin.