LDR's

Short Answer: It’s work, but it can be done.

Let’s define a long-distance relationship…over 2 hours of driving time.  That’s fair as this delineates effort from both people involved.  Personally, this is not my preference.  I have done it, but it requires more to properly function than someone who lives within a favorable proximity.  The trick here is to treat it just as if she was closer to you:

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If you’re NOT officially dating as boyfriend/girlfriend:

· Act as if she was close…the phone is still used to set dates, not for endless and useless

chats.  

· STAY AWAY from texting so much, this will ultimately make you dull and predictable

(regardless of the distance.)   

· VIDEO CALLS are your dates.  Set them at night, and plan them, 2 nights per week.  NOT 

every night.  Anticipation must be built.  This means you actually have a date regarding 

your attire, place, and what you’re doing.  You can get creative here, women MUST tangibly 

see effort from you.

· IMPORTANT:  You must plan to see each other, ONCE PER MONTH, minimum.  Physical 

intimacy and sex is the Vitamin C for every romantic relationship.  Think about it.  If you 

don’t have that, you’re just a guy ‘friend’ she talks to.

-If you are in a committed relationship:

· Same rules apply as if she was closer.  Stay away from over pursing…texting/calling with 

urgency because you’re UNSURE of yourself…i.e. worrying about what she is doing far 

away.  You have your purpose in order and that is paramount to her attraction 

towards you.

· Video calls are now your time to see her.  If she is your girlfriend, she’s going to want to be 

calling you a lot anyhow.  Simply accept these advances from her.

· You still must see her at minimum ONCE PER MONTH.

A few additional details:

Invite her to come to you FIRST. You must LEAD, that means planning everything- what you will be doing and where you will take her.  Women love experiences and just like in my book, you must GIVE to her through your leadership.  Only go to her if and after she brings it up.  Why?  Remember, she WILL let you know when she is ready.  Allow her to open up to you and be feminine. Do NOT force your way in. 

Reciprocation:

Just as if she were local, here are some questions to ask yourself:

-Is she reaching out to you or are you putting forth all the effort?

-Does she seem excited and want to video chat?

-Explain how much she’s looking forward to seeing you?

-Offers great and fun ideas when you will see each other?

-Tells you how she’s been waiting impatiently to bump uglies with you?

I think you get the point. The chance of a high opportunity cost is present if mutual attraction isn't reciprocated. You are purely wasting exponentially valuable time and money entertaining an LDR verses a more accessible option.