Red Flag Speed Bumps
- Jerod Williams
- Aug 13, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 20
Short Answer: Don’t worry it’s fine…actually NO it’s not.
Red flags are nothing to ignore, that’s why we call them red flags. In my book, I list a useful guide to help you identify and work through these. They really are not that difficult to spot, the trick is noticing them early on. However, because we are guys, there are times when the LITTLE head does the driving and the BIG one takes a backseat…then you get to play ‘Monday Morning Quarterback’ on yourself. Or my preferred term, ‘post nut clarity’ ensues.
You saw them coming: her dramatics, difficult personality, age, plentiful tattoos, drug use, unfathered children, trash talking her dad or family…yet you proceeded anyhow in dating seriously and having sex with her. I’ve personally lived these experiences over the years. Not seeing beyond obvious characteristics and attempting to GO FASTER over these ‘speed bumps’ does NOT minimize the damage to your life’s undercarriage:
If you’re a seasoned dater, you know she is not a strong prospect for a monogamous relationship. Friends with benefits or fuck buddies are the ideal positionings for these types of girls. Anything more will DERAIL you into madness. It’s not your job to FIX her and make her better. YOU CAN’T. I don’t care how hot you think she is. Overtime, if you choose to chase, you’ll see the climax just isn’t worth it. You will get sucked into a vortex of nonsense from these energy vampires. Emotionally up, down, side to side, all seem blended together. It’ll feel like being lost in a desert with no compass, going in circles.
Understandably, every guy wants to get the ‘strange’ after awhile…but it wears off. Sharing time with someone you really like talking to and joking with is FAR more fulfilling on the human level. Pair bonding is the human condition. This means you need to find what’s right for you, so getting girls out on DATES and learning to SEDUCE them is apart of YOUR purpose. It feels great having success with women, especially those you share a lot in common with. Too many guys just meet ONE girl and then ask for the check at the table of life without experiencing the other dishes that are offered on the menu.
This is how the Red Pill community has developed. As I explain in detail within my book, it’s these types of guys that commit this sin. From their utterly poor choices with women because they did not VET, they are trapped in a life less living. Now they must verbally discharge their own self-hatred onto the opposite sex. It’s outlandishly STUPID and inefficient, as it’s ALL derived from a lack of confidence. Guys like this incorrectly believed, “I’m such a great guy, she’ll see it and I can change her.” You are not a holy messenger. Injecting your ego into HER issues will solve NOTHING. She has to do the work on herself, by herself…as with ANYONE with deeply rooted vices. Here’s the easiest way to look at the Red Pill:
If they had Maxim Magazine models lined outside their bedroom…they would be BEGGING for information about how to become better with women. But like most people, they choose NOT to EXPAND their comfort zones. When you come across this kind, just tell them to, “Have a good one.”
My goal is to always openly admit the hard truths of the dating landscape, therefore simplify. You MUST have plenty of fulfilling experiences with DIFFERENT girls, for you’ll never know the type you are more deeply compatible with. The only perpetuity in life is CHANGE. Tastes, lifestyles, and people choose to evolve (or not.) It’s only after you’ve dated A LOT that you know which type of girl is right for you and knowing you can ALWAYS find another.