The Talking Stage
- Jerod Williams
- Apr 8
- 2 min read
Short Answer: There is NO such thing.
If you believe in the talking stage, this is why you’re here. Because you are struggling. The ‘talking stage’ or ‘long game’ are complete fallacies in getting a girl to like you. Neither of them are real. It’s immature and subpar form on your part if you engage in either. A guy with great social skills and actively engages in his passions (i.e. has CONFIDENCE) is not going to waste his time with getting to know her over the phone. You are on your way to being one of two places, and it’s your fault you end up there:
Ghosted
Friend-Zoned
…the latter being a worse fate.
The reason for this is that you are simply boring her and acting WEAKLY. You are not being authentic, therefore masculine enough for her. You must LEAD in order for her to accept you with her femininity. If you did embody such appropriate confidence, you would pursue what you REALLY want…a date with her. As the more you dither, the more her attraction will wither. Female intuition is tangible, and it’s almost ALWAYS accurate. She KNOWS that’s what you’re after and you must vet to see if she is truly interested in you. This is achieved by INVITING her for a date.
Follow this process:
-Meet in person, if you have practiced your social skills you know what cues to pick up on i.e. she asks you questions, for your name, where you are from, what you do etc.
-After 5-10 minutes of chatting, ask for her number, NOT FOR HER SOCIALS- that’s weak and you will get placed into her fan club.
-Hit the compose button for texts, hand her your phone, let her put her number in.
-Text her your name.
-Leave. “It was great meeting you" etc. DO NOT mention when you will contact her.
-Wait a few days, then send her a voice note or give her a call. Remember, your goal is to make her comfortable with you. YOU MUST LEAD. (If she likes you, she WILL get back to you, even if it’s via text.)
-A 5-minute phone call is fine or 4-5 exchanges for texting. Match and mirror, don’t push your own agenda and expectations. That’s not what invitations are.
-Ask her when she’s free next and MAKE A DATE that she agrees to.
That’s it.
Dating is nothing more than a skill set. In any engagement there are rules to follow, and in this case it’s incorporating certain behaviors. NOT changing who you are.