The Wait
- Jerod Williams
- May 21
- 2 min read
Short Answer: That’s exactly what you do, WAIT.
ANY and ALL women NEED time and distance away from you to reflect on their feelings about you. We have all heard of the affectionally termed phrased, ‘the ick.’ Women coined this as they cannot quite place the verbiage to match their emotions about a particular guy. This ‘ick’ is defined as NOT being able to be within their feminine, therefore natural state of being. You, as the man, betray this by robbing this experience from her… OVERPURSING, CHASING, and CHECKING IN with her. Follow this equation to better understand:
Anticipation = Mystery = Challenge = Emotional Safety = Physical Desire.
When you DON’T take your time with her and ALLOW her to gravitate to you upon her own accord, you are disrupting the innate progression of her emotions TOWARDS you. It’s simply too much, too soon.
When you are first seeing or dating her, it is YOUR duty to set the tone of the interaction.
This means you lead with:
Humor- always lighthearted and fun
Authenticity- let your interest be known, GO FOR THE DATE, no talking stage
Curiosity- you should want to know everything about her on your date(s)
Mystery- take your time with her, DON’T blow her phone up
Femininity responds to all of these behavioral characteristics positively and instantaneously, as you are being masculine.
Here’s what to do:
Stay away from the phone, simply employ it as a device to see her. That’s it. You are the catalyst for one communication exchange (4-5 texts/10 min phone call etc.) each week.
Had your date? There’s no need to text her the morning after. LET HER WONDER. It’s not a game or manipulation. You are ALLOWING her to reflect on the date and how she feels about you. STAY PUT. Don’t contact her for your second date until a few days later. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO LOSE HER. In fact, the more you DO pursue her the HIGHER the chance of giving her the ick.
If she reaches out? This is what you ultimately want. MAKE A DATE. Here’s a great rule to follow: Whenever a girl contacts you, she wants to see you. It does NOT matter what she is texting or calling you about.
…always judge her actions, not her words.